Thursday, January 7, 2016
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"Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own." Harold Coffin
I think we can agree that everyone has felt envy at one time or another. It's not pretty. Or healthy. In this world of social media I think envy may be more prevalent than ever. We see SO MANY details of other people's lives. Mostly the great stuff that is happening for them.
It all seems to begin with comparison. So there I was, happily tra-la-laing along with my gizmo. Then I checked in on Facebook and saw that someone else has the newer, bigger, better, more expensive model. I looked down at my gizmo and was not quite as satisfied. The gizmo I loved just a few moments ago had suddenly fallen short.. So and So has the new model, and it's beautiful. Suddenly, out of nowhere, up pops that niggly, painful feeling..I want what THEY have! And just like that, envy is born, with maybe a teeny tiny bit of resent thrown in. Ugly emotions both!
Comparison is a dead end street. There is no way we can be happy for others or content with our place in this world if we are always comparing. Someone will ALWAYS have MORE than us. More money, be more beautiful, more fit, travel more..
To nip envy in the bud I need to be proactive. Figuring out the "triggers" that set off this negative feeling is top priority, then I can avoid getting into those situations. For example, we don't have to follow every single one of our "friends" on Facebook.
I have found that keeping a sufficiency journal where I list my blessings, and practicing the ole daily "attitude of gratitude" is what works best for me.
That..and staying off Facebook, lol! ;)
Journal Journey Day 7